How to Be in Harmony with Yourself

A question that is probably asked by everyone, and to which there is no universal answer, because the path to yourself is an individual path.

However, there is a set of rules that can, if not help you achieve, then at least significantly bring you closer to your goal:

Learn the word “No”

And also learn to clearly, without malice, designate your personal boundaries.

Most conflicts come from someone stepping on someone else’s sore heel. Or our mood deteriorates because we do something against our will for fear of upsetting or disappointing someone.

But those around you don’t know what kind of heel you have sore – they should show it.

And those people who will be disappointed in you for keeping your own boundaries are unlikely to be able to make you happy and, most likely, during their lives they will find a reason why you will not be good for them.

Should we appreciate their company?

Give away

Share, help, do good for free, simply because you want and like to see how people rejoice.

Help your grandmother, give flowers to a friend, do charity work, go to an orphanage to play and chat with children, help your sister with math, buy seedlings for your mother – there are many ways, choose any.

Make time for yourself

Our health and our time are the only resources we truly have. They need to pay attention.

Nourish yourself with good music, movies, books, meetings and studies.

Save your time from those who are ready to waste it, because they themselves have nothing to do.

Get your inner demons under control, even if they’re just cockroaches

And walk on a schedule, not when they want.

When you feel anxious, angry, jealous, angry, anxious, or otherwise uncomfortable, ask yourself two questions: “Why do I feel this way?” and “Why do I need this emotion?”

You may suddenly discover answers that will help you become better, as well as comfort your soul.

In the human environment, for some reason, it is customary to be afraid of the darkness in oneself and run away from it, suppressing negative emotions (which are considered bad in society).

But the fact is that people are complex devices. And what is considered to be darkness is in each of us.

Any emotions, including negative ones, are just a tool for adapting the psyche to the environment.

But if you run away from them, close your eyes and pretend that they are not there, then you cannot realize their boundaries, their reasons, and therefore you cannot take control.

So get familiar with your cockroaches, and don’t jump on your chair at the sight of them. Take them to a large enclosure and leave them there, sometimes checking if they need to be poisoned or if they are still part of your internal ecosystem.

Enlightenment and harmony to you.

Take care of yourself.